State needs and agree on helpful support · S7.14

Choose qualities you need in a support relationship

You are deciding whom to approach for support.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the behaviors that matter to you, such as respecting a stop request, privacy, reliability, or clear limits.
2. Consider observed behavior and availability rather than assuming closeness guarantees support.
3. Choose a limited request or another source of help based on that information.

An example

I choose someone who has respected my request not to share details with others.

Reflect

What evidence supports the choice, and what remains uncertain?

Next time

Reassess if behavior or your needs change.