Choose trust, closeness and commitment · D8.18

Decide what level of trust fits the evidence

You want to consider trust without ignoring caution or feeling obliged to be open.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the specific thing you are considering trusting someone with: a task, a detail, a promise, or a responsibility.
2. Look at relevant behavior over time, including kept agreements, broken agreements, and limits in what you know.
3. Choose a boundary or a small next step that fits the evidence. Keeping distance is also a possible decision.

An example

They have returned borrowed items before. I might lend this book, while keeping financial information private.

Reflect

Does the decision fit the specific situation rather than an all-or-nothing judgment?

Next time

Review trust as behavior and circumstances change.