Choose trust, closeness and commitment · D5.3

Prepare to discuss a painful relationship experience

You want support with a relationship experience but do not want to retell everything at once.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Write a brief description of the concern at the level of detail you choose.
2. Name what you want help with now, such as understanding a pattern, considering contact, or deciding on support.
3. Choose an appropriate person or professional and state any limits on what you want to discuss.

An example

I want help deciding how to handle contact. I am not ready to go into the whole history today.

Reflect

Did preparing the request make your choices clearer?

Next time

You can change the pace or stop; repair, forgiveness, or renewed contact is not required.