Consider another view or update an opinion · S1.5
Ask one curious question
You notice you have reached a quick conclusion and want to explore another possibility.
Everyday practice
Try these steps
- State your current interpretation in one sentence, such as ‘They are not interested.’
- Write one question that could add information without assuming your interpretation is right.
- Choose whether to ask the question, check another source of information, or leave the uncertainty unresolved for now.
An example
Instead of assuming the short reply means annoyance, I could ask, ‘Is now a good time to discuss this?’
Reflect
Did the new information change your view, or is your original interpretation still plausible?
Next time
Use curiosity where it is helpful; you do not need to agree with feedback or give up a boundary.
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