Compare options and competing needs · S7.13

Name competing needs without interpreting them as parts

You feel pulled between different present-day needs.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Write each need in ordinary language, such as wanting company and wanting privacy.
2. Check what each would require now without analyzing its origin.
3. Choose a practical arrangement that acknowledges the needs, or seek help sorting the options.

An example

I want someone nearby but do not want to talk. I can request quiet company.

Reflect

Did ordinary language make the choice clearer?

Next time

Use a different arrangement when the needs change.