Say no and define a boundary · D5.13

Review a boundary in an ongoing relationship

An existing arrangement no longer fits your needs or circumstances.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Describe the arrangement and the part you want to change.
2. State the new limit clearly, including when it applies.
3. Discuss practical implications if appropriate, without treating your limit as a demand to control the other person’s feelings.

An example

I used to be available every evening. I now need two evenings without calls.

Reflect

Was the change communicated clearly, and what practical issue remains?

Next time

A changed limit can be valid even when it disappoints someone.