Offer support while keeping limits · D4.11

Offer help within your limits

You would like to help someone in a way they actually want.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Ask whether help would be useful and what kind.
2. Choose an offer that fits your time, resources, and boundaries.
3. Make the offer without requiring acceptance or gratitude, and honor the answer.

An example

I can help carry these two items if you would like, but I cannot stay for the full move.

Reflect

Did the offer fit both their preference and your capacity?

Next time

Adjust future offers based on what was useful.