Describe yourself with room to change · S11.17

Replace a fear-based identity label with a current description

A difficulty has become a statement about who you are.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Write the label and the specific situations you associate with it.
2. Describe the current difficulty, its impact, and relevant variation across settings.
3. State what support or information you want without promising a story of overcoming fear.

An example

Instead of 'I cannot cope anywhere,' I say, 'Unfamiliar appointments are difficult, and clear information helps me prepare.'

Reflect

Is the description more precise than the label?

Next time

Update it as circumstances change.