Answer self-criticism with accuracy · S8.9

Keep a fair tone with yourself while saying no

You are judging yourself for wanting or stating a limit.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Write the judgment, such as ‘I am selfish if I refuse.’
2. Name your actual capacity and any responsibilities relevant to the request.
3. Prepare a response that states your limit without attacking yourself or the other person.

An example

I care about helping, and I do not have time to take this on today.

Reflect

Does the response allow both care and a real limit?

Next time

If you seek feedback, ask about clarity rather than whether you are allowed to have the boundary.