State a need or make a request · S9.14

Make a specific connection request

You want more contact or attention but have been hoping someone will infer it.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Name the kind of contact you want in observable terms.
2. Ask whether the other person is willing and available; make room for a different suggestion.
3. Agree on a realistic arrangement or acknowledge that your preferences differ.

An example

Would you like to have an uninterrupted catch-up after dinner, or is another time better?

Reflect

Did you receive a clear answer rather than having to guess?

Next time

Review whether the arrangement works for both of you after trying it.