State a need or make a request · S14.7

Name a need for space during tension

A conversation feels physically or emotionally crowded.

Everyday practice

Try these steps

1. Notice the practical need you can identify, such as more distance, less noise, or a pause.
2. State the need without diagnosing your body or the other person's behavior.
3. Make the adjustment you control or choose whether to continue if it cannot be accommodated.

An example

I need a little more space and a quieter place to discuss this.

Reflect

Did the adjustment make the conversation more workable?

Next time

Agree on useful arrangements for future conversations if both want to.